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Big Decision Making Made Easy

Every day, I have decisions to make.  What should I wear?  Am I going to be happy or sour?  ????  How am I going to stay focused on all of my tasks?  (That struggle is a real one.  Read my previous post regarding menopausal attention deficit disorder or MADD.)

However, not every day do I have major life decisions to make, but I’ve been in that boat several times.   Should we move out-of-state?  (This is something we still discuss.)   Is this a good time to look for a new job?  (Been there.)   Is now the time to follow all of my dreams and start a new career?  (Been there, too.)

I have been faced with several of these decisions way more than one time throughout my life and I use a very easy method to help myself actually see if it’s the right one.  And it’s the easiest thing ever.  I pretty much use this method with anything that is more than what to wear.  ????

Steps to Making a Big Decision

I kid you not.  Anytime I have a big decision to make, I grab my old lady glasses, an old-fashioned piece of paper and a pencil….  you know… like us old people did in the olden days, before computers.  ????   I draw a line right down the middle, and, I write PROS and CONS at the top.   I list every single thing that is going on in my head in the appropriate column.  I mean EVERYTHING…..

For Example

When I was wondering whether self-employment would make me happier than working for someone else, this is the very method I used.  I worked in an office so I kept my pros and cons list tucked in my top desk drawer. (Rebel, I know.)  Every time I would think of something, I would write it on whichever side of the paper it pertained to.  After several days, my decision was pretty clear.  The Pros side of self-employment (for myself) was over twice the length of the other side.  Everyone’s list will look different.

When I thought about whether I should switch to a different real estate company that I worked for, I used this same method.  One side was extremely longer.

I know it sounds easy and you may be asking yourself, “Listen, old lady, why did you even have to write a blog post on this subject?  We’re not dumb.”   And, you’re absolutely right… you aren’t dumb.  BUT, it isn’t easy for some people.  I’ve gotten lots of questions about the topic of decision making over on Instagram and thought I would share.  It works every time for me.  There really is something about getting each single thought out on a plain old piece of paper to solidify everything.  And, it stops the MADD-ness going on around and around in my brain.  Once it’s on paper, my mind can let go of “that” particular thought, which frees up room for other things to pop up.  It’s almost an organizational tool for my brain.

And don’t forget to keep your list for future reference.  When you ever wonder if you made a wrong decision, you will have that list to go back and look at.  I just found one of mine while I was writing this post.  ????

Thank you so much for stopping by.  I am so happy that you take time our of your busy day to read my posts!  I pledge my love from deep down inside my old lady heart! ❤

Buh bye now!

Danelle

*** Note****   You may be seeing more regular posts such as this one.  Instagram and Facebook have been making some big changes.  I have no say in what those changes are but I have all the power in the world over here on this little ol’ blog o’ mine.   We discuss lots of different subjects on Instagram stories which usually have nothing to do with home decor, but have lots to do with lifestyle.  I want to make sure I don’t lose any of you friends that I’ve worked so hard to find on my different platforms.  So I’m going to try hard to keep everything we talk about over here, too.  I will try to make the title pretty clear on what it’s about so if it’s not your cup of tea, you don’t have to waste your time reading it!

 

 

 

Danelle Harvey

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  • The good news is you will survive all of it. I took prempro for ten years till doctors made think I was going to die of heart attack. So I suffered till about 60. One word of advice; try to keep the weight off. I’m 30 lbs over goal and it’s a bitch to lose at age 70. And the weight settles below my waist. I’m now a tight 16 in pants and a twelve on top. Otherwise it’s all good. And I no longer care what others think. I made a list and retired Jan 1. Best decision. Love your posts.

    • Love your posts, sound so much like me. So now I know I am not alone. My biggest problem is that some of my biggest joys in life (other than my grandkids and family), like gardening, sewing, decorating my house etc,...I don't really care about anymore !!!!! This worries me and saddens me. There are so many projects I could do, but I think, who cares ?????? But I will say, the other day when the sun was out and it was pretty warm (I live in southern Indiana), the sunshine did motivate me to get outside and I felt great. But, heck it snows here and rains, all the time anymore. You know, I think I need to move to South Carolina.......anyway, just want to say I enjoy your Instagram stories and blog posts, thanks so much.......

      • Thank you so much. And that's exactly how I feel when there is a lack of sunshine. It's awful. I literally feel like just sitting in the house and staring into space. That is so not like me.

  • Honestly Danielle! I would have a tough time every day if I had to make a secession about leaving that gorgeous bedroom of yours! ???? I KNOW which side of the list would be longer!!????????‍♀️

  • Please don't stop your IG stories they make my day! I don't even need a list to know that one ;)

    • hahahaha I won't stop at all. I love being over there. ???? One just never knows what can happen when there are others controlling things.

  • Love your posts on IG and I am a becoming an even bigger fan of the blog. This "decision making" post is helpful, timely and inspiring to me! Thank you!

  • Believe it or not reading your blog can make the end of my day ????. I usually know when you break into a laugh it's gonna be good. I wish my house was wired for sound, on my bucket list. Write a book, sing a song

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